I was raised in a Southern Baptist home, and as a child I often felt afraid; afraid of hell, afraid of Jesus being angry at my "sinning"... you get the picture. I would ask Jesus every night to forgive me of my sins, and was taught to include the phrase "and any sins I unknowingly committed" and I was constantly worried over what those could be. I often had terrible nightmares about hell, and went through much of what you described over your children being constantly fearful of not being saved.
I'll never put my kid through the inner hell I was put through as a kid.
I'll never put my kid through the inner hell I was put through as a kid.