How can you say "take responsibility for your life"?

[bennyboy]

If you live in a developed country

And what do 6 billion people from 3rd world countries have to do in such situation?

I don't think there are any 3rd world countries in which citizens identify with heavy metal music. Maybe I'm wrong.

Anyway, I already outlined my method: you have to start with things you can control, and feel good about them. In my experience, depression is rooted in a sense of futility of action, rather than in specific external circumstances; it makes even getting out of bed seem pointless and impossibly hard. So getting out of bed, setting daily goals (even very small ones like taking out the garbage or doing the laundry), and then working diligently to achieve those goals, is the way to start getting some positive momentum going.

The other thing I'd say is to internalize your success criteria. If you judge your feelings of self-worth on whether you are getting laid, you probably won't. If you want to "just be yourself" and dress strangely, act strangely, and then expect people to love you for being a special little snowflake-- not gonna happen. If, however, you are willing to be honest and accepting of yourself, you can always find some little thing you can do to be an active participant in life and to feel better about it.

That's my experience. I sometimes succeeded in getting out of depression, and sometimes wallowed in it. In my case, the boredom of just lying in bed all day eventually got me to get dressed, get outside, and rejoin the world. But I know some people might never hit that threshold.