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The right to mis-define oneself
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself
(June 13, 2015 at 8:21 pm)bennyboy Wrote: I think this is selfish and immoral.  If she is getting involved with a man, there are some obvious expectations-- specifically, that the woman he's having sex with is not a man made by surgery to look like a woman.  And that she doesn't have boy parts.  I don't think a transwoman's right to privacy trumps this poor guy's experience of having the trans-definition issue imposed on him unexpectedly.  Just to show up in the bedroom without first addressing the issue would constitute, in my opinion, a category of rape or sexual abuse, because the psychological effects it could have are so predictable and powerful that a responsible person would take steps to avoid them.  Saying the man involved shouldn't have that emotional reaction is like saying a raped girl shouldn't have that emotional reaction-- neither can help it, and both should be protected by law from being subjected to it.
 I am not certain why this is complicated. Why can't the guy simply say, no and walk away? People turn each other down for sex all the time. It isn't as if you are obligated to have sex with anyone.
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The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 12, 2015 at 11:16 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by VeggieDog - June 12, 2015 at 11:30 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 12:05 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Lemonvariable72 - June 13, 2015 at 12:47 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by henryp - June 13, 2015 at 1:58 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 13, 2015 at 4:08 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 5:21 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 13, 2015 at 5:34 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Pyrrho - June 13, 2015 at 12:27 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Thumpalumpacus - June 13, 2015 at 10:40 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Anomalocaris - June 13, 2015 at 4:13 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 13, 2015 at 4:33 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 5:22 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 13, 2015 at 5:38 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 5:24 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 13, 2015 at 5:36 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by robvalue - June 13, 2015 at 5:42 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 8:59 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 13, 2015 at 9:05 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 10:58 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Ravenshire - June 13, 2015 at 10:11 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 11:48 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Pyrrho - June 14, 2015 at 12:26 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 6:15 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by I_am_not_mafia - June 14, 2015 at 6:18 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 6:22 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by I_am_not_mafia - June 15, 2015 at 4:03 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by robvalue - June 13, 2015 at 5:27 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by comet - June 13, 2015 at 7:34 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Dystopia - June 13, 2015 at 7:36 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 8:57 am
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 11:08 am
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 8:21 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 11:47 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 4:23 am
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Thumpalumpacus - June 14, 2015 at 1:01 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Cato - June 14, 2015 at 10:56 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 5:53 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Thumpalumpacus - June 14, 2015 at 6:00 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 9:01 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Thumpalumpacus - June 17, 2015 at 1:03 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by I_am_not_mafia - June 14, 2015 at 6:36 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 13, 2015 at 11:51 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Thumpalumpacus - June 13, 2015 at 10:55 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 14, 2015 at 3:34 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 4:29 am
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Nope - June 13, 2015 at 10:34 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 12:09 am
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Dystopia - June 16, 2015 at 6:54 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by I_am_not_mafia - June 16, 2015 at 1:52 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 12:23 am
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 1:36 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by SteelCurtain - June 14, 2015 at 1:41 am
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by rexbeccarox - June 14, 2015 at 6:10 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 6:52 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 14, 2015 at 6:17 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Regina - June 14, 2015 at 11:30 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by henryp - June 14, 2015 at 11:45 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Thumpalumpacus - June 14, 2015 at 3:19 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by SteelCurtain - June 14, 2015 at 11:45 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 5:55 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Bad Wolf - June 14, 2015 at 1:55 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 14, 2015 at 2:24 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Bad Wolf - June 14, 2015 at 2:47 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 14, 2015 at 2:56 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Bad Wolf - June 14, 2015 at 3:15 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 14, 2015 at 3:19 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Regina - June 14, 2015 at 4:23 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 6:10 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Cato - June 14, 2015 at 5:56 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 6:01 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Regina - June 14, 2015 at 6:53 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 8:28 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by I_am_not_mafia - June 15, 2015 at 4:07 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 15, 2015 at 6:39 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Regina - June 14, 2015 at 8:20 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 10:47 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 10:57 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by SteelCurtain - June 14, 2015 at 10:53 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 10:58 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Thumpalumpacus - June 15, 2015 at 1:33 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by SteelCurtain - June 14, 2015 at 11:08 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 14, 2015 at 11:43 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by SteelCurtain - June 15, 2015 at 12:30 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 15, 2015 at 12:48 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 15, 2015 at 12:49 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by SteelCurtain - June 15, 2015 at 1:43 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by robvalue - June 15, 2015 at 9:54 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Regina - June 15, 2015 at 1:35 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by SteelCurtain - June 15, 2015 at 2:17 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 15, 2015 at 4:25 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 15, 2015 at 4:28 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 15, 2015 at 4:40 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 15, 2015 at 4:59 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by I_am_not_mafia - June 16, 2015 at 2:26 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Dystopia - June 16, 2015 at 6:55 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by robvalue - June 16, 2015 at 7:00 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by henryp - June 16, 2015 at 2:03 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 16, 2015 at 2:15 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by henryp - June 16, 2015 at 2:51 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 16, 2015 at 2:56 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by I_am_not_mafia - June 16, 2015 at 2:28 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by henryp - June 16, 2015 at 2:49 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by I_am_not_mafia - June 16, 2015 at 3:13 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 16, 2015 at 6:14 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by henryp - June 16, 2015 at 11:04 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by I_am_not_mafia - June 17, 2015 at 1:57 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 16, 2015 at 11:21 pm
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RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by henryp - June 16, 2015 at 11:25 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by rexbeccarox - June 17, 2015 at 12:59 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 17, 2015 at 8:37 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 17, 2015 at 8:40 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 17, 2015 at 10:46 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by I_am_not_mafia - June 17, 2015 at 2:03 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by robvalue - June 17, 2015 at 8:50 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by henryp - June 19, 2015 at 10:12 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 19, 2015 at 10:26 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by henryp - June 19, 2015 at 7:36 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 19, 2015 at 8:09 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by henryp - June 19, 2015 at 8:05 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 19, 2015 at 9:10 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Regina - June 19, 2015 at 10:32 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by The Grand Nudger - June 19, 2015 at 10:37 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 19, 2015 at 11:01 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by The Grand Nudger - June 19, 2015 at 11:10 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 20, 2015 at 6:07 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 21, 2015 at 11:16 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Longhorn - June 20, 2015 at 6:09 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 20, 2015 at 6:13 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by The Grand Nudger - June 20, 2015 at 12:29 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 20, 2015 at 7:42 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 21, 2015 at 11:23 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 20, 2015 at 9:41 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by The Grand Nudger - June 21, 2015 at 11:11 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by The Grand Nudger - June 21, 2015 at 11:21 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by The Grand Nudger - June 21, 2015 at 11:27 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 21, 2015 at 4:59 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 21, 2015 at 5:34 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 21, 2015 at 5:43 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 21, 2015 at 5:37 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 21, 2015 at 5:38 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 21, 2015 at 5:45 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 21, 2015 at 8:16 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by The Grand Nudger - June 21, 2015 at 11:40 pm
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 22, 2015 at 12:21 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by The Grand Nudger - June 22, 2015 at 12:26 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by paulpablo - June 22, 2015 at 2:39 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by Thumpalumpacus - June 22, 2015 at 1:58 am
RE: The right to mis-define oneself - by bennyboy - June 22, 2015 at 8:56 am

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