Custody Battle Update Thingy

[kılıç_mehmet]

In an ironic way.

You're naive and sound like a stuffed shirt.

You've never even heard my voice to state that I sound like a stuffed shirt of some sorts.
Besides, what makes you think that I'm naive?

I've always been the only one to support anyone. I put both of my sisters through college, bought them cars, paid their rents, etc. I supported my mother for 2 years, financially, until she got back on her feet. I took care of my best friend/husband for the last 5 years of his life until he died in 2010, and since then, I have been taking care of his very sick partner like I promised I would. I've never gotten support from anyone, so down there, where you say I should grow up... yeah, fuck you, mehmet. I grew up a long ass time ago.

Well, you probably haven't grown up in terms of personality. You still can't obviously think straight when you lay under a man that you know that is a drug dealing scumbag.
Besides, it's good to support people, however I'm sure that you also could
get a less turbulent life. But well, the collapse of a house starts from it's supports, and I think that the supports of your house have not been firmly laid. You yourself did not have a properly planned family, probably, and therefore needed to go through all of these to get things straight as they are.
Best you do not repeat their mistakes.

He got subpoenaed back by the court, in other words, he got dragged back kicking and screaming.

So it is you who brought him back?

He suffers from alcoholism, narcissism, and tiny prick syndrome. That much, I know.

But he did lay claim on the child first, by means of a court case. So why would he scream and moan if he were called back by the court anyways?

He was the wrong person, yes, but for reasons having nothing to do with selling weed. It might be unfortunately unlawful to possess or sell marijuana, but it's not necessarily dishonest. For some people in this country, it's the only way they can make money, and since it's illegal it makes a black market. I have known some very honest, trustworthy pot dealers.

Well, nothing honest can come out of an illegal deal. Personally, I think that whatever economic reasons drove these men to enter such a business also make them quite dishonest, and untrustworthy.
I think the reasons he sells marijuana are the same that are related with his alcoholism, his cheating, and his not being a great family men.
Economic distress, most probably.

I'm a private person in real life. Nobody I know personally even knew he existed until I told them I was pregnant and who the father was.

Well, the water jug gets broken on the waterway, aleia. I don't know what misfortune has befallen you or if you were just too careless with your birth control methods, but I'm sure that this whole ordeal might have been avoided by simply holding out on him for some time until you got to know him better.
It really isn't about this guy. It could be any other guy.
But I'm certain that you know yourself better than I do.

I wouldn't say I am lonely. I lost the person closest to me a couple years ago, but I liked him so much because he didn't meddle in my affairs. I don't have very many friends because I don't much care for people, in general. I pick a select few, and stick to them, and they are mostly people who aren't judgmental, or jealous.

Well, maybe you need friends that actually see your wrongdoings and stop you while you're at it.
In my world, a friend who sees the wrong of a friend and does not speak of it, is no friend at all. In fact, this is the way an enemy acts towards someone.

I would say that I did, but I'm glad that I did because if I didn't I wouldn't have known the sunshine of my life, Lizzynoodledoodle.

Well, that is another outcome.

I googled him to make sure he wasn't wanted for murder/rape, etc. It was a safety precaution.

I didn't know that you could get someone's criminal record on google.
Maybe you should just have looked for him on facebook.

I pay him child support. If I had custody, he would have to pay me child support. It doesn't matter if we weren't married.

You pay him child support? What kind of a man is he that agrees on getting child support from a woman?
He obviously has no pride either.

Refer to first statement.

Already did.

What? Snuffed out a lit candle with my vagina? Who says I didn't? Furthermore, who says that wouldn't be enjoyable. I rather like pain. I've never done that, actually, but I do like having hot wax poured on my back.

Once again, I got lost in your words, but I meant that you should have stayed away from him, or any other person before actually getting to know them better. You know, entering a relationship, going out for a few months, and then maybe allowing them to touch you.
Besides being a murderer or something, he could have had various STD's, which would have meant other problems for you.
Of course, I don't know you, but I think you have a rather child-like mind.
Like the child who doesn't know that the hot iron is hot, but learns when it burns his hands.

I raised myself, mehmet. I moved out on my own when I was 16, and haven't stopped working since. I've also been an exotic dancer for the last decade. Dangers of the outside world are something I've been familiar with for quite some time.

Well, I hope you make sure that your daughter doesn't have to work as a stripper and move out of your home at sweet sixteen. You only have to tell her the dangers of the outside world.
Not throw her into it like your mother did, perhaps.

I thought they say that opposites attract. I've rarely met many people I have anything in common with, and when I do, nine times out of ten they aren't from anywhere around here.

I didn't mean you. I meant him.

Life isn't a romantic movie, Mehmet, where you can tell who the villains and heroes are by their clothing or way of acting. "Evil" can lurk behind beautiful disguises and goodness shine through extremely rough containers.

I am well aware of these, they are mentioned many times in the proverbs of our ancestors. This is why I told aleia to actually weigh people's worth for some time before getting close to them.
Maybe she did, and I'm just assuming things, but from what I'm got of her posts, they weren't really well acquainted, and went to bed with eachother, where she either did not use protection, or where that protection failed.

No one knew my dad was abusing us, and we never told until we were away from there. He seemed every inch the upstanding lawyer, with no hint at his anger issues at home.

Well, he can't really tell others that he's beating you up, can he now?
Not if you don't tell them.

I find you hilarious because you form many judgments without completely understanding the culture or the individual. What happened to Alei and her daughter is more than unfortunate, but Alei is handling it exactly right.

And I wonder how much my culture is different from yours. Do I go by stereotypes? Or do I just assume that people are the same as here, as they're there?
I am certain that she's handling it the right way, but I'd say that I think that she should not have lived the way she did, in my opinion. But circumstances forced her, and she had to move out of her home at a young age and work as an exotic dancer, had a child from a guy she barely knew, which caused her trouble later. These are all things that I'd never want my children to do.
So I wonder what families do in your part of the world. Do they never actually try to keep their families together, as for the children not to fly away and sever bonds as she?
Or is it only a rare case, that I'm seeing here?