Custody Battle Update Thingy

[thesummerqueen]

You've never even heard my voice to state that I sound like a stuffed shirt of some sorts.
Besides, what makes you think that I'm naive?

Your responses on this forum "sound" like both.

Well, you probably haven't grown up in terms of personality. You still can't obviously think straight when you lay under a man that you know that is a drug dealing scumbag. Besides, it's good to support people, however I'm sure that you also could get a less turbulent life. But well, the collapse of a house starts from it's supports, and I think that the supports of your house have not been firmly laid. You yourself did not have a properly planned family, probably, and therefore needed to go through all of these to get things straight as they are. Best you do not repeat their mistakes.

Demonstrating you do not know shit all about her, or her life. Not all drug dealers are personally scumbags, and not all honest workers are stellar individuals in their home lives. I'll let her refute her family issues.

But he did lay claim on the child first, by means of a court case. So why would he scream and moan if he were called back by the court anyways?

I rather suspect she expected him to act like an adult and pay for the child they both made together. He's only laying claim in order to not have to pay HER.

Well, nothing honest can come out of an illegal deal. Personally, I think that whatever economic reasons drove these men to enter such a business also make them quite dishonest, and untrustworthy.
I think the reasons he sells marijuana are the same that are related with his alcoholism, his cheating, and his not being a great family men.
Economic distress, most probably.

Doesn't follow. Lots of people sell weed because it's a drug that shouldn't be illegal. Doesn't make it right. It's also not related to alcoholism or his family problems.

Well, maybe you need friends that actually see your wrongdoings and stop you while you're at it.

She's a big girl who obviously takes care of her own 'mistakes'. She doesn't need people telling her how to live.

Maybe you should just have looked for him on facebook.

Because that's such an honest source of information?

You pay him child support? What kind of a man is he that agrees on getting child support from a woman?
He obviously has no pride either.

Your cultural bias coming into play.

Once again, I got lost in your words, but I meant that you should have stayed away from him, or any other person before actually getting to know them better. You know, entering a relationship, going out for a few months, and then maybe allowing them to touch you.
Besides being a murderer or something, he could have had various STD's, which would have meant other problems for you.
Of course, I don't know you, but I think you have a rather child-like mind.
Like the child who doesn't know that the hot iron is hot, but learns when it burns his hands.

Shit happens, even when you use contraceptives and wait months.

[quote='kılıç_mehmet' pid='249364' dateline='1331050882']
Maybe she did, and I'm just assuming things,

Stop making judgments of her character until you ask the appropriate questions to assuage your assumptions.


[quote='kılıç_mehmet' pid='249364' dateline='1331050882']
Well, he can't really tell others that he's beating you up, can he now?
Not if you don't tell them.

My point is that he didn't appear to be an abuser by any means. You're missing the point.

Or is it only a rare case, that I'm seeing here?

Families form and break apart for a variety of reasons. It's only people stuck on "traditional" values that turn it into a crisis.