(November 14, 2018 at 5:30 am)DodosAreDead Wrote: We're such a shitty species sometimes.
Yes, yes we are. Some more than others.
Quote:I've seen most of you write things that are smart, well thought-out, kind, often outrageously funny, etc. And yet here is this same group of people, at loggerheads over something that has already caused someone immense grief. Do you guys honestly feel like anything anyone says at this point is going to significantly change anyone's behavior or thoughts?
No. But the majority of us do value empathy and at least some sort of compassion towards our fellow humans. To expect less is to remain ignorant to someone else's plight.
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In what way, is a guy who jokingly says " Um.... I'm pregnant", after a woman just painfully expressed her grief, positive? Also - his follow up post of "Too soon?" is also inappropriate and clearly shows zero respect towards someone who was supposed to be his friend.
I'll wait while you come up with anything remotely justifiable about that. There is, and I repeat because it seems to be a huge missed point here, Nothing remotely funny or positive or nice or good or decent or kind or respectful or helpful about what he said. It was just flat out fucking rude and uncalled for.
The fact that he's only now just offering any sort of apology, nearly three months after the insult was made, is pathetic in itself and the only reason he did so is because he's being called out in this thread. His lack of sincerity only shows that he couldn't be man enough to apologize in the CIJS thread when it actually happened. And yes - I am being rather harsh about it because sometimes people need to be hit on the head with common sense. You just don't go around saying hurtful things to people in their time of grief. And if the person saying those things can't see how hurtful they are, then they just need to keep their damn mouth shut for a change.
The fact that CL has accepted his apology says way more about her character than it does about his. CL is the sort of person we should all strive to become (regardless of religious beliefs). She's kind and she has had to have more courage where this place is concerned, than any other theist who posts here. Even during debates or heated topics when she's received a ton of flack for her views, she has kept her dignity and her wits about her. She has a poise and a personality that shows how humans ought to behave towards one another. She is such an incredibly sweet person and I cannot imagine why anyone would ever think that saying the things that were said to her, is okay. She certainly didn't deserve any of that shit. She is by no means perfect, but she's a hell of a lot better than most people. And though I disagree with her on religious subjects and a few other controversial topics, I feel honored that she considers me her friend.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
