How can you say "take responsibility for your life"?

[Lao Shizi]

When older people hear you complain about these things, and say things like "I know," or "I understand, " it's because they do. Most of us have been through some trying times of one form or another, and we have gotten through them. No one can "fix" those issues but you. No amount of advice will make your life better. No amount of complaining will make your life better. If a problem can be solved, complaining about it won't help. If a problem can't be solved, complaining about it won't help. Sometimes, we just have to survive, and then move on.