"I may be fat, but I beat my eating disorder"

[Nope]

My ideal man would be a very dark skinned or tanned man with a six pack and well defined arms. My ideal woman would be Selma Hayek in Dusk to Dawn. That is my fantasy. I married a man who is the total opposite of that fantasy and find him extremely attractive.

Most people, I believe, are like me. There might be an ideal body type that the individual finds attractive and likes to view but they often marry and are very happy with someone who does not fit that ideal.

For some reason, many people think that a person's fantasy individual is the person that they would gravitate toward in real life. I don't think that is always true. Attraction isn't just physical. Many things form part of why someone is sexually attractive to another person. My husband's humor and just overall kind personality is why I find him sexually attractive.

Women sometimes absorb a negative message that their worth is tied in with their looks, youth and ability to attract a man. Modern media tends to promote a very narrow view of what is sexually attractive in a woman. It is all well and good to say that women should ignore those messages but it can be difficult when you are young. Also, people make very negative comments to both overweight and underweight people that can be very hurtful