RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
October 27, 2016 at 12:04 pm
(This post was last modified: October 27, 2016 at 12:05 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
I just told you I don't want you to walk around on eggshells. I'mlglad you've been honest to me. I'm hurt not because I'm hypersensitive but because I thought I meant more to you than that, I thought I was a closer friend to you than that. I thought you knew me better than that. And you continue to tell me it's what you think. That's fine. I do want your honesty. I'm telling you I want your honesty and I'm glad you told me. I feel like I've love a friend now. But I'd rather know what you really think than not know, saves more hurt later.
I can be hurt and express hurt honestly without needing to talk to a therapist about it and without my expression of hurt meaning I don't want anyone to tell me things. I do.
It reminds me of this stupid "See this is why I can't tell you things" line that some people say... it's so annoying when I'm told that I can honestly express how I feel and then when I do, if those feelings that I honestly express are hurt, that is misinterpreted to mean that the person can't tell me anything that hurts me. They can and when someone such as yourself hurts me, if I'm supposed to be able to give an honest answer, and if you really respect honesty and sincerity, and dislike dishonesty and sincerity, then when I'm sincere and honest in my expression about feeling hurt it does not mean that you can't be honest with me especially when I'm telling you that you can and I'm glad that you have told me.
So we're cool, I feel like I've lost a friend, but I'm glad you were honest with me and I'm glad I was honest with you. You're entitled to express your opinion honestly and I'm entitled to express my hurt honestly and I'm glad that we both honestly expressed these things because it's the truth and because I value the truth, value sincerity, am truthful and am sincere.
If this feels emotional or dramatic to anyone else... it's because I feel that I've lost a friend. I don't think that's an overreaction. It's done now. I'll get over it.
I can be hurt and express hurt honestly without needing to talk to a therapist about it and without my expression of hurt meaning I don't want anyone to tell me things. I do.
It reminds me of this stupid "See this is why I can't tell you things" line that some people say... it's so annoying when I'm told that I can honestly express how I feel and then when I do, if those feelings that I honestly express are hurt, that is misinterpreted to mean that the person can't tell me anything that hurts me. They can and when someone such as yourself hurts me, if I'm supposed to be able to give an honest answer, and if you really respect honesty and sincerity, and dislike dishonesty and sincerity, then when I'm sincere and honest in my expression about feeling hurt it does not mean that you can't be honest with me especially when I'm telling you that you can and I'm glad that you have told me.
So we're cool, I feel like I've lost a friend, but I'm glad you were honest with me and I'm glad I was honest with you. You're entitled to express your opinion honestly and I'm entitled to express my hurt honestly and I'm glad that we both honestly expressed these things because it's the truth and because I value the truth, value sincerity, am truthful and am sincere.
If this feels emotional or dramatic to anyone else... it's because I feel that I've lost a friend. I don't think that's an overreaction. It's done now. I'll get over it.