(June 24, 2011 at 4:11 am)Ace Otana Wrote: I was being pushed into a situation of raising another's child. I avoided the situation by....running like hell.
I was already married when my stepson's mother finally went over the edge of incompetence. There was no way I was leaving the poor kid with her. In fact, there was no leaving him with her. It was us or foster care. I couldn't run and didn't really want to at the time.
(June 24, 2011 at 4:11 am)Ace Otana Wrote: Change tactic I say. Always be ready to run. That's how I've managed to avoid many bad situations. I run, then keep my distance while watching from afar.
I don't want to run because it might be from the right person. However, I know I should have run from my marriage a long time before I did.
(June 24, 2011 at 4:11 am)Ace Otana Wrote: You shouldn't lose confidence in yourself, it's ok to lose confidence in others,.....I have. I'm confident, just can't really trust anyone. Certain people can do a lot of damage to your trust and confidence. I guess all we can do is try to spot it early and be ready to walk away. I won't date anyone until I've done some back ground check on them.
Ha, it is too easy to lose confidence in yourself. You gain it back, though. (I do background checks too, but I have only dated once in the past three years and it didn't work out.)
(June 24, 2011 at 4:11 am)Ace Otana Wrote: I'm already in a big town, If I go to a bigger population, I'll be in a city.
You're screwed.
(June 24, 2011 at 4:11 am)Ace Otana Wrote: I'm single for two reasons, one I want to be single. Two, Jess taught me that girls can be just as immature and careless as men, making me reluctant to risk getting with anyone who'd do the same. So freedom and security are my main reasons. At least with sexual relationships, it's just a quick meet up, tumble about a bit and feel great for a good few days after.
I can see your logic.
(June 24, 2011 at 4:11 am)Ace Otana Wrote: I wouldn't drive her nuts. I'd hug and hold her till she can no longer feel anything.
Hahaha, I hope you find her then.
Quote:Some major war stories there. When kids are involved, it seems to get massively complex almost immediately.It sure does. Kids just makes things far worse.
Quote:When it comes to Jess, she decided to pop out kids with other men while I was away. He left her the moment she gave birth. She thought I'd be happy with raising another guy's kid. Just jump in and assume the role of daddy. She made no thought about making a strong relationship first. She's in a hole and she thought she could use me to climb out of it. Bitch!
Kids put a lot of pressure on relationships, quite often causing break ups.
Wow!