(March 20, 2012 at 8:08 am)KichigaiNeko Wrote:(March 19, 2012 at 8:53 pm)Rhizomorph13 Wrote: The bitter truth is you gotta be a bit of an asshole for women to feel that you are genuine. I was the "nice guy" growing up and it just doesn't work, it was only once I used a little bit of "the neg" that I acheived some measure of success. Oh, and I learned to swing dance, yeah that probably is what brought the real success. I had a skill to attract women and was able to weave a bit of mystery and convince them I was worth having by showing that they couldn't just have me easily. Fucked up really. Maybe for you Balkan dancing could bring success? I had a dance partner once who was into Balkan dancing. Who knew there was a whole scene here in Portland centered around such a niche dance style?
Women only like a guy who has skills, but don't go out and buy a bo staff or nunchucks just yet.
What worked (and has ALWAYS worked) with me is that you BE genuine. Don't give me that "nice guy/ bad guy" crap...just BE who you are and so will I and if that is suitable THEN the sparks can fly.... not that I am any prize, but it has worked for Zen and me
I've never found much difficulty in being genuine and being a bit of an asshole. I think we all have an inner asshole if only we can get in touch with it.