So the past couple of days have been really difficult for me as a moderator of my facebook group. I came back here because it seemed safer. Then I saw heatheness's thread and I remembered why I left.

Y'all doin' a good job. Keep being good to one another as staff and as a team. I often feel alone in what I do these days. I'm really worn out.

I'm sorry you feel that way

Sure, that was an awful thread from start to finish. But I try not to let exceptions such as this ruin the generally wonderful forum. It's a shame they attract so much attention, more so than genuinely good posts.

You're welcome to send me a message anytime if you need someone to talk to

That thread bummed me out too ... probably for a different reason than it did y'all. I gave thought to bailing here as well, because I would think folks here would be more inclined to consider outside thinking.

Oh well, there's chum in the water. Swimming might not be a good idea, given the mood.

(July 3, 2016 at 1:58 am)thesummerqueen Wrote: So the past couple of days have been really difficult for me as a moderator of my facebook group. I came back here because it seemed safer. Then I saw heatheness's thread and I remembered why I left.

Y'all doin' a good job. Keep being good to one another as staff and as a team. I often feel alone in what I do these days. I'm really worn out.

Never knew you had an FB group. seen your personal page once or twice. 

I'm bad at judgement calls. I'd be banning the hell out of everybody.

(July 3, 2016 at 11:36 am)c172 Wrote:

(July 3, 2016 at 1:58 am)thesummerqueen Wrote: So the past couple of days have been really difficult for me as a moderator of my facebook group. I came back here because it seemed safer. Then I saw heatheness's thread and I remembered why I left.

Y'all doin' a good job. Keep being good to one another as staff and as a team. I often feel alone in what I do these days. I'm really worn out.

Never knew you had an FB group. seen your personal page once or twice. 

I'm bad at judgement calls. I'd be banning the hell out of everybody.

I was the VP of our local atheist organization. I gave my version of a rage quit (so basically a "Fuck you, you handle this shit if you don't like what I'm doing"/flounce off) this morning, had a panic attack, and spent some time rocking back and forth in the shower. I've put a LOT of effort into this group over the years. Sweat, tears, money, time. The person instigating and perpetuating all of my troubles has been banned, but I am taking a few days to reassess whether or not I want to come back.

I am the only female officer so I get a double dose of personal hatred from certain people - either misogyny or because of bullshit drama. We have a subset of people we call "the victim club" who often act like many of the butthurt people you guys deal with here. Everything is always someone else's fault, never theirs. I'm a handy target for their blame because I'm always out in front and I'm easy to hate. I don't go out of the way to make people like me. I just want to get shit done.

But I'm not immune to repeated attacks over the course of years.

The president feels terrible - he came over and actually held me for a while so I could cry it out and apologized over and over for not being the kind of support I needed against abject mob-rousing dumbfucks and then fed me. I feel better. I just need some quiet time away from it all.

Also, could one of the staff point me in the direction of the rule you instituted against "non-rule-breaking rabble rousers"?

The pres would like to implement something along that lines in our code of conduct to allow for getting rid of poisonous people.

The Rules Wrote:Overwhelmingly Negative Influences
Members are not allowed to engage in any activity which has an overwhelmingly negative influence on the forums as a whole. The purpose of these forums is to promote discussion and debate between people of different belief systems, which all members should try to do in a non-disruptive manner. Whilst there are no points of view that a member can hold which would be considered a negative influence, a member can be a negative influence if their behavior is consistently disruptive and upsetting to active members.

Staff will judge whether a member has an overwhelmingly negative influence on the forums, and will punish that member appropriately. All punishments for violations of this rule will require active staff to vote during a 48 hour time period. A single vote of dissent will prevent punishment from being carried out. Only unanimous agreement of the staff who vote within the time period will see the punishment enforced.

(July 3, 2016 at 6:46 pm)Losty Wrote:

The Rules Wrote:Overwhelmingly Negative Influences
Members are not allowed to engage in any activity which has an overwhelmingly negative influence on the forums as a whole. The purpose of these forums is to promote discussion and debate between people of different belief systems, which all members should try to do in a non-disruptive manner. Whilst there are no points of view that a member can hold which would be considered a negative influence, a member can be a negative influence if their behavior is consistently disruptive and upsetting to active members.

Staff will judge whether a member has an overwhelmingly negative influence on the forums, and will punish that member appropriately. All punishments for violations of this rule will require active staff to vote during a 48 hour time period. A single vote of dissent will prevent punishment from being carried out. Only unanimous agreement of the staff who vote within the time period will see the punishment enforced.

AKA the nuclear option, only appropriate for those cases when elaborating why you're banning someone results in a sputtering rage.

Quote:I just need some quiet time away from it all.

We still love you, Sweetie.

(July 3, 2016 at 6:25 am)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: That thread bummed me out too ... probably for a different reason than it did y'all. I gave thought to bailing here as well, because I would think folks here would be more inclined to consider outside thinking.

Oh well, there's chum in the water. Swimming might not be a good idea, given the mood.

Don't go!