And my view is that I think if you care about each other you'll be happy with each other...
And what's the point of making a 'commitment' when you can leave anyway...? (regardless of how much you used to love each other, it still happens at least to some, why would you be a special case? Seems idealistic to me).
And if you DON'T love each other enough to stay so you just break the commitment anyway...isn't that less strong and substantial than staying together WITHOUT the commitment because you DO love each other/care about each other enough, etc? (and it just genuinely lasts long enough).
What's the point in a 'commitment' if the commitment can be broken? (It happens, regardless of the strength of the love, it still happens then sometimes too)
Seems kind of superfical to me to make a 'commitment' if it can be broken anyway... sounds to me kind of like superfical icing on the beautiful cake when the cake actually tastes better on it's own lol.
Why not just KEEP the cake and cut the bullshit icing? I think it's better on it's own LOL.
I think people often go after 'commitment' when love isn't enough for them anymore...they want more so they need some kind of superfical security blanket to keep the relationship going...
But if the relationship is not going so well anymore...why would you want to keep it going superficially?
I think that is sometimes what happens. Isn't love ENOUGH? Isn't caring ENOUGH? Why do you need to make a 'commitment' can't people just stay together because they Love and Care? Commitment seems more like fear, attachment to me. Love is more about compasion and letting go I think.
I think the attachment of commitment is a common by-product of the compassion of love. The 'Fear of losing' (the love) rather than the 'Joy of staying' (and keeping the love) IN ORDER to stay (and keep the love), etc. But maybe that's just me.
I don't think love is actually about attachment and I think commitment is actually a form of attachment. I think love is about compassion and I think compassion is actualylly a form of DEtachment (or 'letting go') in other words the opposite of attachment.
The LOVE of staying and keeping (compassion, DEtachnment, 'letting go') rather than the FEAR of going and losing (commitment, Attachment, 'holding on') - that is what I think love is about.
EvF
And what's the point of making a 'commitment' when you can leave anyway...? (regardless of how much you used to love each other, it still happens at least to some, why would you be a special case? Seems idealistic to me).
And if you DON'T love each other enough to stay so you just break the commitment anyway...isn't that less strong and substantial than staying together WITHOUT the commitment because you DO love each other/care about each other enough, etc? (and it just genuinely lasts long enough).
What's the point in a 'commitment' if the commitment can be broken? (It happens, regardless of the strength of the love, it still happens then sometimes too)
Seems kind of superfical to me to make a 'commitment' if it can be broken anyway... sounds to me kind of like superfical icing on the beautiful cake when the cake actually tastes better on it's own lol.
Why not just KEEP the cake and cut the bullshit icing? I think it's better on it's own LOL.
I think people often go after 'commitment' when love isn't enough for them anymore...they want more so they need some kind of superfical security blanket to keep the relationship going...
But if the relationship is not going so well anymore...why would you want to keep it going superficially?
I think that is sometimes what happens. Isn't love ENOUGH? Isn't caring ENOUGH? Why do you need to make a 'commitment' can't people just stay together because they Love and Care? Commitment seems more like fear, attachment to me. Love is more about compasion and letting go I think.
I think the attachment of commitment is a common by-product of the compassion of love. The 'Fear of losing' (the love) rather than the 'Joy of staying' (and keeping the love) IN ORDER to stay (and keep the love), etc. But maybe that's just me.
I don't think love is actually about attachment and I think commitment is actually a form of attachment. I think love is about compassion and I think compassion is actualylly a form of DEtachment (or 'letting go') in other words the opposite of attachment.
The LOVE of staying and keeping (compassion, DEtachnment, 'letting go') rather than the FEAR of going and losing (commitment, Attachment, 'holding on') - that is what I think love is about.
EvF
