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Great marriage advice.
April 17, 2017 at 8:23 am
I love Merriam-Webster's Word of the Day, and here's another really great quote:
Quote:"The covenant only works if each partner, as best as possible, puts the other's needs above his or her own, with the understanding that the other will reciprocate." — David Brooks, The New York Times, 7 Mar. 2017
The whole idea, of course, is one of reciprocity, and not "morality from above" (i.e., "God").
https://www.merriam-webster.com/word-of-the-day
Objective moral values exist because they can exist, and, hence, do exist.
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RE: Great marriage advice.
April 17, 2017 at 11:08 am
I believe a lot do try.
The problem is that often neither understands the other's needs.
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RE: Great marriage advice.
April 17, 2017 at 11:16 am
That's a nice sentiment and all, but it's not entirely true. Sometimes you do have to put yourself first just so you can have something to give later.
Marriage is more trial by fire than following sappy absolutes.
Even if the open windows of science at first make us shiver after the cozy indoor warmth of traditional humanizing myths, in the end the fresh air brings vigor, and the great spaces have a splendor of their own - Bertrand Russell
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RE: Great marriage advice.
April 17, 2017 at 11:22 am
(This post was last modified: April 17, 2017 at 11:26 am by Neo-Scholastic.)
Our rule is never go to bed hurt or angry.
(April 17, 2017 at 8:23 am)Jehanne Wrote: The whole idea, of course, is one of reciprocity, and not "morality from above" (i.e., "God").
IMO, there is no warrant for elevating enlightened self-interest to a universal moral principle.
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RE: Great marriage advice.
April 17, 2017 at 12:37 pm
(April 17, 2017 at 11:22 am)Neo-Scholastic Wrote: Our rule is never go to bed hurt or angry.
We've done that before, but neither of us could sleep anyways, so we'd sort it out somewhere around 4am and then be completely tired the next day.
The fool hath said in his heart, There is a God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.
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RE: Great marriage advice.
April 17, 2017 at 12:47 pm
Don't get married in the first place, probably the best advice of all.
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RE: Great marriage advice.
April 17, 2017 at 12:53 pm
(April 17, 2017 at 11:22 am)Neo-Scholastic Wrote: Our rule is never go to bed hurt or angry.
(April 17, 2017 at 8:23 am)Jehanne Wrote: The whole idea, of course, is one of reciprocity, and not "morality from above" (i.e., "God").
IMO, there is no warrant for elevating enlightened self-interest to a universal moral principle.
Why not? Yahweh seems to have created Us show that we could love Him?! And, if we don't accept His love, then we "burn" for all Eternity! I think that I'll stick with Merriam Webster's quote on this one.
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RE: Great marriage advice.
April 17, 2017 at 12:56 pm
(April 17, 2017 at 8:23 am)Jehanne Wrote: [edit]
Objective moral values exist because they can exist, and, hence, do exist.
I disagree. Morals are subjective.
Being told you're delusional does not necessarily mean you're mental.
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RE: Great marriage advice.
April 17, 2017 at 1:03 pm
Secret of a happy marriage? Make sure she has her own desk, then keep your hands off of it.
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RE: Great marriage advice.
April 17, 2017 at 1:30 pm
(April 17, 2017 at 12:56 pm)mh.brewer Wrote: (April 17, 2017 at 8:23 am)Jehanne Wrote: [edit]
Objective moral values exist because they can exist, and, hence, do exist.
I disagree. Morals are subjective.
Certainly, as evidenced by the fact that morality evolves, just like everything else.
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