Thank you.

(November 9, 2018 at 5:57 pm)wyzas Wrote:

(November 9, 2018 at 11:26 am)mlmooney89 Wrote: There is no way you will EVER know what it is like to have life growing in you only to learn that it died. You can have all the bad things in the world happen to you but it will never be equivalent (not saying worse or better you just will never understand that feeling)

Sorry, but the pity party got old, especially the last one (that went something like "people with babies shouldn't talk about it around me"). While I feel for her, I don't need to hear the fishing for pity. How many times do we have to say "there there"?

I was alerted by a fellow member that my name was being brought up on this thread so I came to take a look. 

As people may imagine, this one in particular struck a cord and it's been impossible not to address it. And not just because the claim that I said "people shouldn't talk about it around me" is a misrepresentation of my words...  

...But because I hardly EVER talk to ANYONE in my real life about my baby loss/infertility. I don't do it because I don't want to burden friends/family with it, nor do I want to put people in an awkward situation. I act with them like I'm totally fine and downplay how I am feeling in the rare occasions that they do bring it up. When people reach out to me to tell me they are pregnant or go on to me about their kids, I just smile and go along with it and act totally normal even though it kills me inside. I've made a total of 3 posts about this on my facebook in the past 2 1/2 years - one to say I lost the baby (since I had unfortunately already announced my pregnancy), the second one a few months ago to say I was practically sterile and never going to have kids (because I know people are wondering and it makes for an elephant in the room, since people don't know because I never talk about it), and the 3rd one just recently to say I was moving on.  

Since I don't talk about it in real life, I have on occasion vented about it here. My post that is being addressed above was posted in the CIJS thread, because that is specifically where vent posts are made. And that is all it was - me using it as an outlet to vent. It wasn't an attempt to garner pity or attention. 

To refer to any of this as my "pity party" couldn't be any more of a punch to the gut. Especially coming from someone who I considered a forum buddy whom I've had some contact with outside the forums.

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(November 8, 2018 at 11:42 pm)Kit Wrote:

(November 8, 2018 at 11:39 pm)Joods Wrote: No not at all. CL never was the preachy kind here. She stood her ground on things she strongly believed in, but she never acted like we were all going to hell because we didn't believe in the same things. 

I'm glad we still keep in touch.

You must have missed her drama there at the end.  

I personally don't miss her.

As for this gem. Yeah, let it be known that when you, Kit, are repeatedly calling someone "delusional" and "mentally ill", chances are they, me, won't be all too happy with you. If me having expressed objection to being called those things is what you are referring to as "my drama towards the end," well then expect more of it next time you decide to call other people that. 

On a more personal note, I've always been kind to you in the past and considered you a friend here. There was really 0 reason for you to have insulted me like that.

CL, out.

Stick around Deb... The vast majority here are nice people as you know... Lots of noobs here now..

(November 13, 2018 at 6:47 pm)ignoramus Wrote: Stick around Deb... The vast majority here are nice people as you know... Lots of noobs here now..

This.

And Iggy's here, too.

(November 13, 2018 at 6:33 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:

(November 9, 2018 at 5:57 pm)wyzas Wrote: Sorry, but the pity party got old, especially the last one (that went something like "people with babies shouldn't talk about it around me"). While I feel for her, I don't need to hear the fishing for pity. How many times do we have to say "there there"?

I was alerted by a fellow member that my name was being brought up on this thread so I came to take a look. 

As people may imagine, this one in particular struck a cord and it's been impossible not to address it. And not just because the claim that I said "people shouldn't talk about it around me" is a misrepresentation of my words...  

...But because I hardly EVER talk to ANYONE in my real life about my baby loss/infertility. I don't do it because I don't want to burden friends/family with it, nor do I want to put people in an awkward situation. I act with them like I'm totally fine and downplay how I am feeling in the rare occasions that they do bring it up. When people reach out to me to tell me they are pregnant or go on to me about their kids, I just smile and go along with it and act totally normal even though it kills me inside. I've made a total of 3 posts about this on my facebook in the past 2 1/2 years - one to say I lost the baby (since I had unfortunately already announced my pregnancy), the second one a few months ago to say I was practically sterile and never going to have kids (because I know people are wondering and it makes for an elephant in the room, since people don't know because I never talk about it), and the 3rd one just recently to say I was moving on.  

Since I don't talk about it in real life, I have on occasion vented about it here. My post that is being addressed above was posted in the CIJS thread, because that is specifically where vent posts are made. And that is all it was - me using it as an outlet to vent. It wasn't an attempt to garner pity or attention. 

To refer to any of this as my "pity party" couldn't be any more of a punch to the gut. Especially coming from someone who I considered a forum buddy whom I've had some contact with outside the forums.

I'm glad you're moving on. That's all I ever wanted for you.

Catholic_Lady!   

Please stay!  And again, I'm sorry for my hurtful words in the past!

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Catholic_Lady: Kind hearted and very smart, dialogues into the depth of the issue,  is very authentic and down to earth person.  She is full of love to other humans, and like Abraham in over-forbearing state, always looks toward their beauty and not their faults.

That's what I wrote in the what I like about you thread!

See Deb. If Allah can apologise to Yahwey, surely you can accept his apology too!

Now we just need Yahwey to stop firing missiles at Allah in Palestine! Yahwey's a sneaky little devil at times!

You know where I'm at, CL. This really took an odd turn, if you ask me.

Odd turns are the best.

Mystic is a cheap date. Anything with legs that believes in a god, and suddenly he's their best fan.