atheism and children

[Pyrrho]

I'm going to be the only person in catagory c...how embarassing, lol.

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To be fair, I became disabled in my mid 20's with severe anxiety and panic disorder.  I never wanted kids with my first husband, because he was a total loser (don't get married at 19 kids!), but after divorcing him and meeting me new husband, I didn't want kids because:
a) I did not feel I would be a good mother because of my illness.
b) I had very little money.
c) I do think the future is likely to be difficult with possible issues with things like food shortages, dwindling access to clean drinking water, etc.
b) The world is already overpopulated and I did not want to add to the population problem!

My hubby moved us to the coast for my health, and it seems to have worked because as I became less stressed out...and then I got pregnant.  At 32 and using more than 1 kind of BC, it was really unexpected.  But we both agreed that this was really our only shot to have a child, so we decided to keep her.  I was getting better with my anxiety, hubby had an ok job, it was the right timing I guess.

However, I signed paperwork to have my tubes tied before I hit 3 months of pregnancy. I had the surgery done about 90 minutes after giving birth.  One child is all we will ever have for all the same reasons still listed above.

I love my daughter (I feel like I would literally die without her, now), and I love kids in general (otherwise I could not be a Girl Scout leader!) but it does make me a little sick to see large families in this day and age.  I don't think people should have more than 2 kids, for the sake of those very same kids.  Honestly.

However, I do notice more and more families only have one or 2 kids.  ALL of my kids friends are only children or only have one sibling.  I still see families with 5 or 6 kids around, but it seems that trend is less common now.  It's just time for humanity to suck it up and realize you can't just pop out a dozen kids anymore.  
200 years ago, yes, because sadly a lot of your kids would die before age 5, plus people often used kids as labor devices in their shops or on their farms.  And people did not have access to any family planning tools.  

Nowadays, there is no excuse in developed countries to have more than 3 kids, except utter blind selfish stupidity. Just IMHO.

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Feel free to ignore this question, as it is rather personal. Why didn't your husband get a vasectomy beforehand? It is cheap, effective, and safe.