atheism and children

[Pyrrho]

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Feel free to ignore this question, as it is rather personal.  Why didn't your husband get a vasectomy beforehand?  It is cheap, effective, and safe.

It's ok, it's weirdly impersonal talking about it here. lol

Truth is, I don't really know, it just never was opportune or seemed necessary I guess.
When we met, we'd discussed it and both agreed no children. I only got sicker though, and I don't think I could have gotten pregnant and carried a baby to term for the next 3 or 4 years anyway.  We were close to homeless, I had been unable to hold a job for ages, and (very long story short) ended up living in my moms backyard in a rusty old trailer.  I didn't have money to get prescription BC so we just used OTC stuff.  But we used it every time.  Neither of us had any insurance.

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 We lived on food stamps and money from him mowing lawns for a little while.  A vasectomy at that time was out of the question.  A few hundred bucks may as well have been a few million.

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My hubby joined the military soon after just so I would get health insurance.  I got a diagnosis, treatment, and started to get better.  When he left the military (honorable medical discharge from a torn ACL tendon), he decided to move us to the coast to help my health keep getting better.  

We lived at the coast like 2 months before I got pregnant.  I blame the fresh, sea air. :/  

At THAT point we discussed him getting a vasectomy (closing the barn door after the horse is out, I know), but we were still extremely poor. I had health insurance at that time, and he had none that would cover a vasectomy.  So we decided to get me fixed instead of him, for financial reasons.

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This is too late to do you any good, but it may be useful for other people to know.  Planned Parenthood does vasectomies, and they have a sliding scale based on income.  That is, how much you pay is based on how much money you make.  It is quite cheap, but, of course, not free.  Anyone in the U.S., who wants a vasectomy, even if they are poor, should talk with their nearest Planned Parenthood to find out what current pricing is.  It does not take long for a vasectomy to more than pay for itself, in savings in other birth control costs.

They might also allow one to make payments over time.  One will need to check with them for details on this.