Homophobia. A misleading label

[DeistPaladin]

There's the differance. '..express deep anxiety..'

We're talking about his homophobia, not yours. You're trying to say he only has "rape anxiety from gay men" not fear of gay men. This is like saying he's not afraid of guns, he's afraid of being shot. Distinction without a difference.

I'm talking about folks, like me, where there is only a discomfort, not 'deep anxiety'.

So you have a mild case of homophobia, then?

What distinguishes a phobia from mere dislike is an intense or extreme emotional reation. If a woman has a discomfort being in a room of men would you say she is menophobic with all the a priori presuppositions relating to motives?

I think the term would be "androphobic" and, yes, if she has an unexplainable discomfort being around men, this is a problem she should speak with a therapist about.

If you took a wrong turn into a unfamiliar neighborhood and saw what appeared to be gangs on the corners, broken down stripped cars, hobos around burning cans, would you not feel uncomfortable? Not really 'scared' cause you're all Steven Segal badass or something, just 'uncomfortable' and would prefer not to be in that neighborhood?

Again, you're talking about a real hazard here. If you see being around gay men in such a way that this is an appropriate analogy, we're talking about a more extreme reaction.

Ever been in a social situation (some kinda gathering, I don't know) and you realize ou have like zero in common with anyone there, don't really know anyone, would not that bored, 'antsie', wanting to leave feeling be called 'uncomfortable'? It's like if you ended up in a startrek convention and you absolutly do not like startrek, you're uncomfortable there, you don't have a "phobia" of startrek of any kind, not een a 'mild phobia'.

Bored =/= uncomfortable or uneasy.