Abortion is love

[rexbeccarox]

So, even though I would have likely died if I had carried to term, it's heinous? You just said all life is precious. A cluster of cells is more precious than the life I've been forging for thirty eight years?

Here's the the thing that I didn't tell you: the fetus was dead when I aborted it because my body isn't ideal for pregnancy. I was told at the age of twenty-two that I'd likely never even get pregnant, let alone carry a pregnancy to term, and if I tried, I'd be putting my life at major risk. Because of that, when I did get pregnant, I had a hard time deciding what to do, and when I made my decision and went to get an abortion, they told me the fetus was dead- I planned on aborting anyway.

Was my abortion heinous?

First of all, I am so sorry you went through that. My friend just lost her baby only days after she realized she was pregnant, and she's devastated. 

I guess I should have specified that by "abortion" I mean deliberately killing an unborn baby. A spontaneous abortion/miscarriage is what happened to you, so no, you didn't do anything I think is wrong or "heinous."  

With that being said I still don't support abortion in those cases because I see every human life as equal. I do think it's immoral to just downright kill one innocent person in order to save another innocent person. But when faced with very difficult moral questions like this, we have to comb through the very fine details. For example, in the case of an ectopic pregnancy where the mom and the baby are sure to die anyway, I don't think it's wrong to remove the damaged Fallopian tube. Or in the case where a pregnancy becomes very dangerous, just for the mom, I don't think it's wrong to try to remove the baby   as safely as possible and try to get him/her to survive somehow. Of course, he/she will probably die, especially if they are still very young, but at least you removed the mom from the dangerous situation she was in without cutting the baby apart, or whatever other method (I'll spare the nasty details), and still trying to save him/her too. 

This may seem petty to a lot of people, but it's mainly about the principle. It's about not forgetting that every human life is equal. It would not be consistent if we said every life is equal and then turned around and said one innocent life takes precedence over another  if one if still in the womb.

But I would have had the abortion anyway... I would have killed the unborn *fetus* anyway. I was just under four months along, and I already felt the overwhelming toll it was taking on my body. But that didn't even matter: I never wanted kids, even before the doctor told me they weren't feasible. I would have, sure, taken better precautions with birth control, but if I became pregnant healthfully, I probably still would have aborted. Deliberately.

Did I just get lucky? If so, how does that make every life "equal"? I mean, according to your theology, your god made me, right? All of me? Even the part of me that would have made the decision to have an abortion, healthy or not?