Hello

[MTL]

Hello, everyone.

I thought I would make an account and introduce myself.

I grew up in a pretty fundamentalist family in an evangelical church, and bought the whole thing hook line and sinker for years. Deconversion was a long painful process that started with me finding a lot of questions I knew I couldn't answer to my satisfaction. Eventually I hit a critical mass, panicked, and stopped thinking about religion at all. After I had a bit of distance, I looked at everything again, did some reading and some thinking, and decided that none of it made any sense.

So now I have been an athiest for a few years. My husband knows, but I still haven't told my family. They know I don't go to church, and seem to have adopted a "don't ask if you don't want to know" policy, which is working fine for the moment.

I've been thinking a lot about it again recently because I'm afraid of what will happen when it becomes obvious that I am not indoctrinating my son as a True Christian™. He's too little right now for it to be an issue, but I want to be prepared for either a) having to come out or b) possible attempts at behind-the-back indoctrination. I'd hope they wouldn't try that, but I can't say for sure. On the one hand, nobody even mentioned the lack of a baptism, on the other, my mom JUST liked a post on Facebook about how she'll fight tooth and nail on her knees for her kids and grandkids to have a relationship with Jesus.

I might not post a lot. I'm mostly doing a lot of reading and thinking.

Welcome!

I wish I had a nickel for every time I've read a story similar to yours.

He's your kid, not theirs.
Would Christian parents like it, if you tried "behind-the-back" Atheist indoctrination?

You have every right to openly forbid this, and enforce it if necessary.

Grandparents, contrary to what they might think, don't have any right, whatsoever,
to "fight" to "indoctrinate" their grandkids.

Just the opposite, actually.

I confess, I find the idea of anyone who seeks to "indoctrinate" a kid with ANY ideas,
other than respect for themselves and for others,
keeping an open mind, and learning to think critically for themselves,
pretty reprehensible.

How about just roundly educating the kid and letting him make up his own mind,
in the long run?

Anyway, I sympathize and welcome you, again.