(October 6, 2015 at 7:25 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(October 6, 2015 at 7:20 pm)TheRocketSurgeon Wrote: The point I was trying to make, in that example, was that denying you have homophobia in your heart while expressing clear repulsion for the sex-act is an indicator of hidden (even from self) homophobia. It's like denying that you have some element of racism in your heart is a pretty good indicator that you have some element of racist feelings in your heart, even if you have not really examined them. It's the reason that people like Stephen Colbert mock those who claim to be "color-blind".
I disagree with this completely lol. Homophobia is not being grossed out by the thought of doing sexual things with other men when you are not attracted to men.
I am grossed out by the thought of doing sexual things with *anyone* I'm not attracted to. Regardless of their gender. And since I'm not attracted to any woman, it grosses me out to think about going down on one. This is not homophobia lol.
I get your point, in that you're talking about needing to be attracted to someone before any sexual act whatsoever becomes palatable to you. That's fair. But I think both of you are overlooking my point. I'll try to come up with a better illustration of my point...
Say that (somehow, let's use magic), your husband got his wang cut off in an unfortunate accident at work, was rushed to the hospital and given a sex-change operation. This is a person to whom you are attracted, with whom you are in love, and yet I suspect if you examine your motives clearly enough, you'd find you're still repulsed by the idea of vagina. Again, it's okay. We need a different word for the distinction between homophobia and hatred... I actually dislike when the term "homophobia" is used to describe hateful and active bigotry against the LGBTQ community.
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