do any of you think im to young

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...but it makes me uncomfortable when someone feels bad because someone else thinks they should look different.

If they feel bad it's because they think they should look different.

The sort of stigma I am talking about is that which typically goes something like, "Wow, what a disgusting fat ass." Stigma doesn't have to be negative (I mean, insulting). So why is it that is often the case? I think it is because some people are rather full of themselves and expect other people to be like them.

No no no. I do not say "Wow, what a disgusting fat ass." because I'm rather full of myself and expect other people to be like me, I say "Wow, what a disgusting fat ass." because they are a disgusting fat ass.

I realize that expecting someone to exercise is still a little condescending, but it is far healthier than just writing someone off as a fat ass.

Expect them to get some exercise (or put down the doughnut) or write them off as a fat-ass, really, what's the differance? One is insultive and one is a 'suggestion for healthy living'?

I think if someone points out your fat-assness that in itself should be a suggestion for healthier living.