Women's clothes?

[MTL]

Yep. 

Some men seem to think the world revolves around them. Truth is a lot of times women dress the way they do because it makes them feel good and confident, or they're big into fashion and that is how they express themselves. Believe it or not, it isn't all about you all the time.  

A woman dressing sexy is not an invitation (or an excuse) for a man to act like a disrespectful creep.

They want to express themselves, yet excuse me for acknowledging that?

Who the fuck are these women who have 0 self awareness of the world around them and the people in it?

Why would you want to feel confident in dressing minimalistic, if not for the purpose of flaunting your body? Yet HOW DARE ANYONE LOOK AT WHAT YOU'RE CLEARLY DOING.

These arguments are simply and utterly nonsensical.

Let me clarify something.

Let's say a woman uses clothing to express herself.
Let's say she dresses very sexy and goes out with her girlfriends to a club.

All kinds of guys hit on her.

Did she dress up for the guys?

She may have dressed up for the RIGHT guy, yes,
but I assure you, that doesn't mean she owes sex to every man she attracts,
nor does it mean that it's "okay" for every man to gape at her;

(and yes....as long as those guys are ONLY gaping, and not harassing or touching,
it's technically okay for them to gape...
...but, as CL has pointed out, it is still rude,
and it won't get you anywhere, besides which).

And, in some cases, she may be dressing to attract the guys, yes
...but it may not be because she wants to attract a mate at that moment, at all.

She may LIKE knowing she looks attractive to a lot of men
....that still doesn't mean that it is socially acceptable for men to gape at her.

In yet another case, some of the women you see out in groups together
are ACTUALLY dressing up FOR EACH OTHER....not for men, at all.
They may all be happily married, but it's a treat to have the ritual of pampering themselves
and they like to see each other looking their best, too.

(It's the same reason that I dress up a little for Christmas dinner with my family.
There's no potential mate, there...no one to impress;
dressing up is part of the celebration;
it makes the entire occasion that much more pleasant).


And then there are those of us that ARE, literally, dressing up because we enjoy the process, for ourselves:

I have observed many times, to my girlfriends and sisters:

I find that dressing up is the best part of an evening of nightclubbing.
Once I get to the noisy club, I'm kinda bored.

I enjoy the creative process.
It's what attracted me to fashion design in the first place.

Certainly fashion arose out of a long-developed legacy of dressing up to impress a potential mate;

but let's put it this way:


The instinct has gone evolved so far, for so long,
that in many cases has become its own reason for being:
preening for the sake of preening.

Otherwise, you wouldn't have so many gay male fashion designers creating women's clothing.


A gay male fashion designer doesn't wear women's clothing to attract another man for himself,
and he isn't interested in whether or not each of his female customers attacts a man, or not, either.

He loves the design process.

Another example would be how the breeding, in dogs, to have certain traits, can go into overdrive
and overtake the original natural appetite it served,

IE:  Border Collies are bred to have great focus, to not be distracted from a task.

As a side effect of all that breeding to serve that one purpose,
many Border Collies have the problem of being Obsessive-Compulsive.

Their obsessiveness has taken on a life of its own,
no longer serving the original purpose.

Same with fashion.

That's why when a woman dresses up, we say it is not always to be attractive to others,
and she may just be doing it, literally, for herself.