Cognitive dissonance

[MTL]

I am certainly no expert, but I thought that cognitive dissonance was basically
the state of being irreconcilably conflicted, inwardly...or, also,
inflicting an irreconcilable conflict on someone;

IE:  A homosexual teenager, raised by fundies,
struggles with the irreconcilable conflict
that one hand, he knows he has never been anything other than attracted to the same sex,
but on the other hand, is told that homosexuality is a dire sin, and he wants to be a good Christian, too.

maybe that's not an ideal example, but you see what I'm driving at.

I also want to say that I thought that Cognitive Dissonance can also be INFLICTED on people;

IE:

My sister tells me:

- she wants to see me succeed
....but does everything in her power to facilitate my failure;

- that I am selfish
...when I sacrificed everything in my life to help my parents
(while she uses them, does NOTHING for them, and REPEATEDLY throws them under the bus)


....etc.

So basically, anyone who is a "Frenemy" is possibly guilty of "practicing Cognitive Dissonance"


.....No?