RE: Cognitive dissonance
February 27, 2016 at 10:32 pm
(This post was last modified: February 27, 2016 at 10:34 pm by God of Mr. Hanky.)
(February 27, 2016 at 8:46 pm)bennyboy Wrote:(February 27, 2016 at 8:37 pm)God of Mr. Hanky Wrote: It's also the brain not functioning!
You say that, but it's not true. A Christian who mourns the death of a child for a week and then returns to work has a functioning brain: he walks, talks, drives and pays his taxes. If I lost one of MY children, I'd go fucking postal; I'd probably want to set the whole world on fire. So who is functioning and who isn't?
Nobody actually does what they expect they will in a situation which they have never experienced, because they cannot predict just how it would impact them. Some people try to bury their grief in their work, but this practice has an extremely poor track record long-term.
If an Xtian goes right back to work after losing a child, and shows no signs of mourning or grief even to his remaining family, then he is the sort who you should really beware of - he's a fucking powder keg, waiting to blow! His pain is no less real, and his attempts to whitewash it with lies is not helping him, and it makes him no good for anyone else. If this ever happens to you, do yourself and everyone around you a huge favor and stay away from churches - seek the advice of a professional grief counselor, who will help you find ways to deal with the grief realistically.
Mr. Hanky loves you!