My world is tearing apart

[Angrboda]

Certainty is illusive.  If you look for it, you may not find it.  Just as atheists have their arguments about what must be and why, so do theists.  It all tends to look similar from the inside.  Ultimately it's a question of trust.  Which set of answers do you trust more?  Go with your feelings and I'm sure you'll be alright.

No, in science the good thing is you don't have to trust, that is what testing and falsifying, control groups and independent peer review is for. Even scientists have had competing theories, which some pan out and others dont, no trust needed. That is what independent peer review does, acts as a filter to insure your own personal bias isn't skewing the data.

"Go with your feelings", no no no no. That is what screws up human logic. It is ok to have feelings and emotions yes, nobody should claim we should not, and this also not about legal rights either. Pragmatism and critical thinking and reason don't prevent one from having feelings, but they do act as a great filter to insure what your perception of reality isn't flawed and that leads you to, not perfect answers, but more accurate answers.

Bollocks. Science can't dictate how you answer the god question. Like it or not, we're all at the whims of our biases. They are what makes us who we are. You can no more choose to believe a position that you don't have a good feeling about than you can fly. Like it or not, our emotions lead us by the nose. Take into account what science and reason say, sure, but ultimately it will come down to which position you trust more. All the science in the world is not enough to nullify our prejudices in the matter. Telling someone to just trust science and logic is nonsensical advice. He can only do what's human. If he trusts science and logic, then he does trust them. Telling him what he should trust is inane advice.