RE: Your parents.
May 17, 2016 at 3:34 pm
(This post was last modified: May 17, 2016 at 3:46 pm by Regina.)
We were never wealthy, but we didn't go without, our Dad liked to treat us. I think with my paternal grandparents being immigrants, they had struggled sometimes when Dad and his sisters were growing up, and he wanted to give me and my brother the childhood he didn't have. I was always closer to my Dad (and my grandmother on his side, although my grandfather died when I was 4). I'd used to go and spend a few days staying with my paternal grandmother as a child, and I really liked that, she never had much but we always had fun.
With my Mother I've always been more distant. We don't argue now, but she was stricter growing up and sometimes lost her temper with me and my brother easily. Sometimes she'd hit us, but it wasn't often or extreme when she did, and it was only when we had really driven her to it. I think with me it worked, she had me disciplined strait-laced, but it pushed my brother's behavior worse. Her parents are different to my paternal grandparents. Equally as caring, but they are the most stereotypically British grandparents (even though, ancestrally, they're Irish and German) and they have been somewhat better off than my Dad's parents. It's a big contrast to my Dad's side.
My brother was a lot to handle at times with his severe ADHD (still is occasionally tbh), so he got more attention than me. I didn't mind though, in fact I think it made me more independent because I knew I had to go my own way and look out for myself.
Things got rough when we were teenagers after my Dad became too ill to work, we became poorer. We scraped by though.
With my Mother I've always been more distant. We don't argue now, but she was stricter growing up and sometimes lost her temper with me and my brother easily. Sometimes she'd hit us, but it wasn't often or extreme when she did, and it was only when we had really driven her to it. I think with me it worked, she had me disciplined strait-laced, but it pushed my brother's behavior worse. Her parents are different to my paternal grandparents. Equally as caring, but they are the most stereotypically British grandparents (even though, ancestrally, they're Irish and German) and they have been somewhat better off than my Dad's parents. It's a big contrast to my Dad's side.
My brother was a lot to handle at times with his severe ADHD (still is occasionally tbh), so he got more attention than me. I didn't mind though, in fact I think it made me more independent because I knew I had to go my own way and look out for myself.
Things got rough when we were teenagers after my Dad became too ill to work, we became poorer. We scraped by though.
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