RE: Age of Marriage?
May 22, 2016 at 6:12 pm
(This post was last modified: May 22, 2016 at 6:13 pm by Regina.)
Better to marry at 35, having lived, experienced various relationships and gained a solid sense of self, instead of rushing into it at 18 and (naturally) growing apart from your spouse by mid-life. I'm 22 and I'm already a completely different person to who I was 4 years ago, I can't fathom who I'll be in another 10 years.
And ok, it worked in your case and there's nothing wrong with that, good for you. It's still a fluke and not representative of reality for most 21st Century people.
I'm wondering in my mind whether people are supposed to be monogamous anyway. I'm not saying everyone should just be rambunctious, waving it around and cheating on someone who isn't comfortable with that. But then is it psychologically healthy spending 60 years with the same person, everyday their face being the first you see in the morning and the last you see at night? No space or time to yourself. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to find "the one" who I'd happily spend forever with, and it could happen sure. But I live in reality, not a romance novel, and I know it's more likely not to happen.
And ok, it worked in your case and there's nothing wrong with that, good for you. It's still a fluke and not representative of reality for most 21st Century people.
I'm wondering in my mind whether people are supposed to be monogamous anyway. I'm not saying everyone should just be rambunctious, waving it around and cheating on someone who isn't comfortable with that. But then is it psychologically healthy spending 60 years with the same person, everyday their face being the first you see in the morning and the last you see at night? No space or time to yourself. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to find "the one" who I'd happily spend forever with, and it could happen sure. But I live in reality, not a romance novel, and I know it's more likely not to happen.
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"Ironically like the nativist far-Right, which despises multiculturalism, but benefits from its ideas of difference to scapegoat the other and to promote its own white identity politics; these postmodernists, leftists, feminists and liberals also use multiculturalism, to side with the oppressor, by demanding respect and tolerance for oppression characterised as 'difference', no matter how intolerable." - Maryam Namazie
