Monogamous or not.

[paulpablo]

I said this before, but I'm not sure we're psychologically built to be monogamous. I'm a bit pessimistic with this, but I just can't imagine getting married at, let's say 30, and being genuinely happy with someone for 50 years until we eventually die. I just think surely at some point, you'd have to get bored of seeing that same person's face first thing in the morning and last thing at night, never truly getting any alone time from them because you literally share a room with them every day.

A monogamous relationship is a romantic thought though, so I'm not against it. I would love to find my perfect soul mate who we'd just dedicate ourselves to eachother and be monogamous, but speaking realistically I'm pessimistic it can actually happen without a lot of work.

I'm not saying I just plan to be rambunctious and cheat on anyone I'm with, making them uncomfortable. That's not fair and I don't like when people do it. I do think it's not a bad thing when a couple are in a so-called "open relationship" though, as long as everyone in the concoction is fully aware and comfortable with it.

I've heard it's less common for homosexual men to be monogamous.  I think the logic is that men are less likely to be monogamous, more likely to be sexually promiscuous and therefore in a relationship with two men the likelyhood of monogamy is decreased.

I can see so many benefits to being monogamous if you are homosexual though.  If you have a partner who's the same size as you then you instantly double your wardrobe.  No children will be involved usually so if you pool your resources and you both have full time jobs you will basically be rich as fuck in comparison to straight couples.