(June 5, 2016 at 10:26 pm)Losty Wrote: I voted not monogamous because it appears that your question is strictly sexual. I don't think romantic relationships must be monogamous but I'm not against a monogamous romantic relationship. Sexual monogamy is something I did for a very brief time...it didn't work out. I'm weird though, think. Yes...I'm a strange person. I have serious issues with love and romance and mixing that with sex. It's not to say it's impossible or I'd never want it. It's just that it's definitely not easy for me. If I feel trapped or smothered I have been known to bail.
I think I am similar but perhaps a little different. I think I am sexually non-monogamous but with a clear favorite or favorites. I think I am also capable of being romantically non-monogamous but it feels more natural and fulfilling to me when I have a clear romantic focus on the person I love the most.
The wanting to bail when feeling trapped or smothered makes sense to me because no one should have to feel that way. I think relationships should be positive for everyone involved. That is not at all to say that I think anyone should bail at the first sign of relationship difficulties as problems can be temporary and I think a relationship valued by all people involved is worth fighting for: but I think some people sometimes stay in a relationship for its own sake even when it's not working and I definitely think ending a relationship is preferable to staying in a bad one.
