Monogamous or not.

[bennyboy]

Just to chime in here on one point...... I got married a year ago, I can tell you, it most certainly does NOT make you less attractive to women, on the contrary.

No doubt. Nothing validates a woman more than proving she is "sexy enough" to steal what belongs to someone else. The thing is: we've spent so much energy invalidating women-- under-rating them, imposing unrealistic (and mostly pointless) standards on their appearance, and generally smashing their egoes from day one. The result is a strong instinct to seek validation, and that means having sex just to prove you have the power to make it happen.