RE: Pre vs. Post Death
June 30, 2016 at 7:35 pm
(This post was last modified: June 30, 2016 at 7:53 pm by henryp.)
(June 30, 2016 at 4:27 pm)RozKek Wrote: Well, of course, our sorrow isn't about them suffering after death, it's was just very emotional, in some cases unexpected and unfortunate to lose someone for us, they're not suffering and our way of coping is doing what we do now. It's of course just a human reaction, a good one if we don't want to be like robots and/or emotionless. I see nothing bad in sorrowing to cope and get over it, the only problem is when the sorrow goes on for too long.
If it's not about them, does the reaction make sense? I don't respond as strongly as others to tragedy, but in the past I think "Oh, that's a bummer." Because people only get one life to live, and losing that opportunity seems like a substantial loss. But it's only a loss from the perspective of the living, which the people I'm supposedly mourning are not.
To me, it seems like the focus tends to be on those killed, rather than those affected by their deaths. I wonder if it's just framed that way so we don't feel like we're being self-centered?
...too sum up better, in regards to Orlando for example, nobody was saying "I can't believe this happened to me!" as a response to others being killed.
