Monogamous or not.

[MJ the Skeptical]

You even admit if people go around saying they don't fall under the strict monogamous label it's not going to be easy to find like minded people, as is such the case on the internet. 

Yes but you don't understand what I mean by that.

I'll give you an example of what I mean.

If I go to a nightclub and I go around introducing myself as being non monogamous and talking about it constantly I imagine the majority of women will be repelled because they will wonder why I'm talking about this subject of having sex with no commitment.

Because for better or for worse that isn't how sex happens.  People don't go around discussing their exact likes and preferences, they tend to talk and joke then kiss then heavy petting and so on and so on.

Guys don't go around saying "Hey do you like penis in your vagina?" Because even though the girl most likely does like that, the question itself will put her off the act of having a penis inside her vagina.

Much in the same way going around saying "Hi I'm non monogamous and my name's Paul how are you?"  Is most likely to put most women off even if they are actually non monogamous in their actions.

No one said you go around talking about it, that's so flippant to diatribe on that. If the situation arises where the woman wants to know if you are monogamous or not, you can be rest-assured most women (even if you have been dating them) will not like that aspect about you. There's not really much else to add here on the subject anymore.