RE: Religion and Spanking
July 20, 2016 at 12:56 am
(This post was last modified: July 20, 2016 at 12:58 am by bennyboy.)
Spanking is a poor form of justice, but a good source of classical conditioning. Spanking must not be in response to a cognitive complaint, but to a specific environmental stimulus.
So, "Johnny, you didn't do your homework again. You know the rules, bend over" is not likely to have good results, except to make him fear and hate his father. However, if you spank a kid every time he runs toward the street, he will learn not to run toward the street. I'm not saying it's a good method or the best, but it will in fact be effective if done properly.
In my house, we have the 5-to-0 countdown. In both my kids cases, I only ever reached zero once. They do not like the number zero. Zero involved some spanking, but mostly a lot of shouting and slamming of doors-- generally, a really really bad moment. My kids respect me-- when playing they'll walk all over me, tickle me, sometimes hit me. But when I say "5," the show stops.
I think there's bad parenting on BOTH sides of this issue. The way some people plead and negotiate with their kids is disgusting. So is the way parents hit their kids out of anger, for no other reason than that they are annoyed by something. Liberal douches and conservative douches both do a pretty good job of fucking up their children.
In the end, the parent should remove ambiguity from the kids' lives: whatever is going to happen, it should be black-and-white. If rule X is broken, punishment Y is going to happen. And that's just how the universe works.
So, "Johnny, you didn't do your homework again. You know the rules, bend over" is not likely to have good results, except to make him fear and hate his father. However, if you spank a kid every time he runs toward the street, he will learn not to run toward the street. I'm not saying it's a good method or the best, but it will in fact be effective if done properly.
In my house, we have the 5-to-0 countdown. In both my kids cases, I only ever reached zero once. They do not like the number zero. Zero involved some spanking, but mostly a lot of shouting and slamming of doors-- generally, a really really bad moment. My kids respect me-- when playing they'll walk all over me, tickle me, sometimes hit me. But when I say "5," the show stops.
I think there's bad parenting on BOTH sides of this issue. The way some people plead and negotiate with their kids is disgusting. So is the way parents hit their kids out of anger, for no other reason than that they are annoyed by something. Liberal douches and conservative douches both do a pretty good job of fucking up their children.
In the end, the parent should remove ambiguity from the kids' lives: whatever is going to happen, it should be black-and-white. If rule X is broken, punishment Y is going to happen. And that's just how the universe works.
