RE: Religion and Spanking
July 22, 2016 at 11:08 pm
(This post was last modified: July 22, 2016 at 11:15 pm by bennyboy.)
Nobody yet has talked about this, but I think we should consider that some of the "humane" punishments used by liberals can be as damaging, potentially, as spanking.
The silent treatment is one I got a lot as a kid. Man, THAT was pain, and I would have traded it for a belt in a heartbeat. But I don't think I actually learned anything from it (I was just 5 and couldn't really understand why I was being ignored). Mostly, I remember feeling unloved and outcast, and I think it made me generally insecure. I don't recall at any point, EVER, thinking "I wish I hadn't _____, and I have to remember not to ____ next time."
But the worst thing my parents did was degrade me: (at about age 14) "Benjamin, you know I love you because I HAVE to, I'm your mother. But I really don't like you very much as a person. Sometimes I wish I never had you." And I could see that she was watching me carefully, to see if she could make me cry, something a developing young man should never be made to do, in my opinion. A thousand lashes with a belt won't damage a kid as much as a single sentence uttered in spite, or ANY behavior that is done maliciously rather than out of a desire to help the child develop properly.
The silent treatment is one I got a lot as a kid. Man, THAT was pain, and I would have traded it for a belt in a heartbeat. But I don't think I actually learned anything from it (I was just 5 and couldn't really understand why I was being ignored). Mostly, I remember feeling unloved and outcast, and I think it made me generally insecure. I don't recall at any point, EVER, thinking "I wish I hadn't _____, and I have to remember not to ____ next time."
But the worst thing my parents did was degrade me: (at about age 14) "Benjamin, you know I love you because I HAVE to, I'm your mother. But I really don't like you very much as a person. Sometimes I wish I never had you." And I could see that she was watching me carefully, to see if she could make me cry, something a developing young man should never be made to do, in my opinion. A thousand lashes with a belt won't damage a kid as much as a single sentence uttered in spite, or ANY behavior that is done maliciously rather than out of a desire to help the child develop properly.
