I need a therapist

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That's not how it works. If he's depressed he should definitely take anti-depressants unless it's mild and can be overcome with CBT, mindfulness/meditation, exercise, and a healthy diet. Depression, anxiety and mental illnesses in general aren't as simple as saying fuck it, thinking it through a bit more and skipping anti-depressants. I'm not here to attack you personally, I'm just trying to avoid having not so good advice handed out.

I know depression personally. I wanted to kill myself many times. I didn't. I didn't want to kill myself for silly reasons like my xbox was taken away or some shit.

It was because I knew that as a brown person I would have to work twice as hard as the white man next to me,
I would be a minority for being atheist,
my dad's dying, etc.

And I'd recommend anti depressants but have you seen the side effects.

Take Valium for example.

Side effects:
Fainting
Dizziness
Thoughts of suicide,
Death, etc


Maybe some minor anti depressants would work but in reality they don't solve anything.

I thought this through because I knew that this man's life is in need of help.

I'm not gonna throw out advice that I haven't researched.

I don't like telling people how they feel but I'm pretty sure you were just feeling sadder than usual and your negative thoughts made it worse, but you weren't depressed. Depression isn't something you can think away. Possible side effects aren't worse than depression at all. If your anti-depressants cause suicidal thoughts then they aren't doing their job, when that happens you try another brand. 

If it was that easy do you really think millions of people in the US alone would be depressed and live shitty lives if it could be magically fixed by thinking it through? Also, you mentioned you're already tall and have body hair that means your sadness was probably caused by hormones, mood swings whereas op is 29 and clearly has a difficult time that can't be thought away.

I imagine it's rather offensive to tell a depressed person "Just think it away", it's the equilivant of saying "it's all in your mind" and is quite false. 

Your negative thoughts caused depression and suicidal behavior, the problem is when your depression causes negative thoughts and suicidal behavior, there's a big difference.