(August 23, 2016 at 7:19 am)Rhythm Wrote:(August 22, 2016 at 11:53 pm)Won2blv Wrote: I misspoke, we haven't been separated for a whole year. That incident was just a year ago. I know that I don't want to be married anymore and I assume that it is inevitable that the marriage will end. I Just have no idea what kind of therapy is best for someone in my situation. I feel bad too because I know she'll feel broadsided (even though we have talked about it very openly) She is going to guilt trip me and use a lot of what if you're wrong questions. I want the best for her, I don't think I'm that though.
What if you're wrong -about what-? That you no longer wish to be married to her? It's difficult (but not impossible) to be "wrong" about that...but definitely worth exploring. If it's a "what if" regarding something -else-...you could remind her that it's about you and her, not you and her and god...and that ultimately, you're the initiator of this decision...so she's off the hook with the big man up above in any case. I don;t know many people who believe that god will devalue or punish them because their spouse left them.
She would be talking about the religion and god stuff. I still do have doubts about my doubts. But I think that I would be better off exploring those feelings on my own too. I do feel for her because we have been married for some time now. She is going to be sick over it but at the same time, I know she'll be ok because she'll have her "community" still.
