RE: Orgasms and Pain Control
May 15, 2011 at 4:51 pm
(This post was last modified: May 15, 2011 at 4:54 pm by Eudaimonia.)
(May 15, 2011 at 1:39 pm)Aerzia Saerules Arktuos Wrote: I don't have sex with strangers, so I can't tell you if that feels at all like 'bonding'. However, I sincerely doubt it does anything of the sort, as it's just sex.
I have had plenty of relationships, several of them sexual, and currently only one lasts. Sex does not infact seal a psychological bond... that depends on how your personalities and activities mesh. Infact, I'm told it can complicate relationships too muchCan one's attachment for another increase after sex? Yes... that isn't to say it always does, and it can also decrease one's attachment for another.
Other intense experiences can be found in dangerous lines of work (ie: commercial setnet fishery)... and these are also not necessarily bonding
The psychological bond I refer to is an empathetic one. Since you do not believe that sex seals a psychological bond to some degree.. then I will concede that my viewpoint is specific to being stereotypically female.. wherein I assume that others are capable of empathy and outside of this those who are able to experience intimacy without empathy are unnerving as it too closely resembles the criminal mind's inability to experience it...
Such is my bias...
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