How the fuck is there a statute of limitations for rape in New York?

[Mermaid]

I don't think you're a sociopath. I think you have a very unique type of personality. I think you're very thick skinned and cold headed. I think you have an air of arrogance. I think you are extremely blunt and to the point. I think you are not good with people skills. I think you don't have a good sense of tact and sensitivity when handling others. 

...Not because you're a bad person, but because, as I said, you have a unique type of personality, thick skin, and you like to be talked to in a way that is blunt and to the point. So you talk to others that way. And you don't realize (or perhaps don't care) that most people are not the same way as you, and therefore don't respond well to the way you talk to them.  

When posting here, why not try to connect with people on a more human level and talk to them in a way that is conducive to a good discussion? And be humble. If you're trying to reach people here and share a message with them and have productive discussions with them, I think you'll be much more successful if you do that.

I did it both ways.. I by profession am a salesman. (among other things) I can sell people on just about anything. But here's the thing. I like Christ am not here to sell anyone on anything. I am here to provide the truth. (think rich young ruler, think zacheus, or the guy he told let the dead bury the dead. Think of the whip he fashioned to chase the money changers out of the temple. Think of all the times he called his well meaning disciples foolish..) There is a min mandated requirement that Christ demands, before the flood gates of grace and mercy were opened.

I tried selling people, and it worked out very well if you count the numbers of followers I had. But my efforts much like the modern church turned out to be little more than a social group with a religious theme. No life changing anything happened. people gather together and were nice to one another till they weren't and they handled each other no different than anyone else. This sickened me, as at this point your way, was the only way i knew to reach out to people, and yet I could not effect any real change with nearly 100+ people to work with.

Then i prayed for God to take eveything back if he needed and show me how to effect change even if on just one life. Overtime when I opened my bible, I noticed the Jesus we were taught in sunday school, was not the Jesus of scripture. Jesus was hard and cold towards those who's hearts were hard toward God or those just going through religious motions he was sharp tongued and demanded that people use what God gave them. Paul's letters were no different, Look at how he even rebukes the members of the church. Look how paul rebuked peter for teaching circumcision...
But when they repented grace and mercy abound.

Now then with this in mind why should i compromise anything? There has been a line drawn in the sand by God and is not taking people fooled across the line. We have see said line, acknowledge and cross it on his terms. Which this generation/culture has made evil via their own personal version of morality.

I am not allowed to point to sin and demand anyone to repent, so I focus on the broken/fallacious logic that is used to defend their beliefs. I literally tailor/use the same size "hammer" on them as they use on me. If it is scaled back to a conversation then I do the same. How ever if it is escalated, well I can do that too. This subject to me is no different than any other. If a person has an emotional tie to a subject I will never force it to discussion. However if you are willing to use tragedy as a talking point then it is you who has subjected yourself to scrutiny.

This place gives no quarter and none is expected from me. that is why I too have subjects I am reserved in discussing. But at the same time I do show compassion and respect in what I say. I do think out my messages and believe it or not tone them down, like in this case.

I identified the nym may not be ready for recovery and if she wasn't then she should allowed to be pitted if that is what she wanted but I also warned this is not going to help long term. I pointed out that if she is not wanting to have to relive the whole episode over and over again, then she will need some sort of actual help and she will need to acknowledge that gathering pity and pressing it all back down is not fixing anything, that it is nothing more than a band aide.

Now if you packed that with pity/over compassionate sell, then at the end of the day the pity remains and the need to get help goes away because if the person is just seeking pity to fashion another band aide then she will be feeling better at that point. Which again does more long term harm than good.

True compassion may have you take boot to ass to push someone in a direction they may not want to go at first, but long term they themselves will see they are in a far better place.

True compassion starts with not being a patronizing dickbag to people. What you claim is the "truth" is not everyone's truth.