(November 13, 2016 at 4:33 am)Whateverist Wrote: That's interesting. I wonder if you are nonetheless aware of the male gaze? I mean, even if you're not hoping for it perhaps it is something one notices anyway? My wife thinks men are more turned on by visual stimuli. I wonder if you're that way too.
I have a hard time not noticing the gaze. I find it extremely stressful to be stared at; always have.
Sound and scent seem to be more alluring than visual. Certain visual cues I do find attractive (for instance, a man with long hair and high cheekbones).
Quote:When it comes to wooing I wonder if you give thought to making yourself a 'lure' or if you rely on conversation and activity the way I do? Of course I'm so far out of shape now gawd only knows what I'd do anymore.
No, I don't think I've ever even tried becoming a lure. I have dressed up in the past, but more for "stage presence" for specific events rather than to attract someone. I have fond memories of one particular off-the-shoulder red dress I used to have, but other than that I have a lackadaisical attitude towards things like shoes and makeup.
