(April 10, 2017 at 8:06 am)Nymphadora Wrote:(April 8, 2017 at 6:39 pm)Brian37 Wrote: My biological father died 2 years ago. He didn't raise me. I only talked to him on the phone once a few months before he died just so he could say is piece. But I also wouldn't have gone to his funeral anyway. I don't think you owe family any explanation. Sometimes family members don't get along and it isn't healthy to force it especially if you feel like they are emotionally draining you.
Bold mine.
So much this. I really wish courts would see and understand this. Honestly, my mother and sister are huge reasons why my ex cut me out of my oldest daughter's life.
I remain hopeful that I can have her home again someday. Even so, when my mother dies, I think I'll throw a party to finally be relieved that we no longer share the same air space.
It is natural for those who don't get along, family or even entire nations, for a family member or head figure, when gone, for the other to feel "revenge". But I never feel that way myself, I'd only say I feel a sense of relief that an individual or a leader, who I see as causing me problems no longer being around to do it. But I sill am no fan of revenge.
I cannot stand my biological brother, I don't want him in my life, but I also don't wish him ill either. Even with an asshole like Trump, I know even if he gets caught the likelihood of him spending a day in prison is slim. At best he'd get impeached then pardoned. But even if he did get prison time, I would still not want anyone harming him while in prison it wouldn't solve shit anyway.
I do understand the frustration though. When I did spend time with my brother, I constantly had to hear the doomsday crap, and when he wasn't spewing that nonsense he displayed jealousy when I got along better with our family than he did. I don't need other's emotional baggage in my life. It is one thing to compromise in healthy relationship, but quite another for someone to suck the emotional life out of you.
