(April 10, 2017 at 10:49 am)Mister Agenda Wrote: 1 of 10, counting halves and steps. I have a half-brother who mooched off me a lot. I can sympathize with not being able to muster a lot of emotional investment. I'll be sorry when he's gone though (I'm older, but he's been putting on more miles).
It is only mooching when you financially drain someone. It isn't mooching when you agree to do it and can afford it. Husbands and wives are not always equal in pay and sometimes one of them does not have a job. Nothing wrong with supporting family, but not if they are draining you.
I consider myself extremely lucky because my mom had enough for both of us and she was never at risk of being homeless. In return she got lots of help from me shopping going to appointments and even just spending time with her was a joy.
I will say this, while if you decide to support someone, and they are the ones asking, it is still your choice to say no.
I had a friend who really was not my friend, who kept asking me for money. The only thing I wanted from him was honesty. If he said he could pay me back, do it. If he said he couldn't pay me back, I'd still have considered it, but he always said he would but never did. I got tired of that.
I just paid to have my other long time friend to fly out to visit me in June. I DONT expect him to pay me back and right now I can afford it.
