(April 10, 2017 at 2:33 pm)Shell B Wrote: No seYnse in attending a funeral if you don't want to. You'll grieve or not naturally with or without an audience.
I'm sorry you lost your brother, even if you think he was a shit. There is something to having fewer familial connections in this world. Short of catastrophically evil events, most of us feel some connection to people who share our DNA. There's a "loss" no matter how slight. Sorry for yours.
I've only ever skipped the funeral of one family member by design. Most of us did. There was no reason to pretend.
Yep, his is the only one I've skipped or am likely to skip. He's the third brother I've had die. I spoke at both my parents and my last brother's funeral. I did grieve him in my own way and this thread was helpful. My only real regret was that I was never able to connect with him. I would have helped him if he'd let me but he couldn't listen and was hopelessly defensive. Communication is only possible if the way is open from both sides.
