(May 2, 2017 at 9:14 am)mh.brewer Wrote: I'm sure you saw this coming, the old leopard/spots thing.
I'd do the same thing, cut him off, at least for awhile. Let him know that his relationship with you and your toddler (son/daughter) can no longer include religion. If he starts in, tell him he's fucking up again and end the contact. He gets to believe what he wants, you get yours. If he does not get that, ultimately, it's his loss. Sorry grandpa, a bed of your own making. Sorry grandma and great grandma, hope you like grampy running the show.
That's the path I took. Fortunately my family was a bit more rational and understanding. It only took it about 6 months for it to finally sink in.
Living under pressure and guilt is no way to live. Eternal soul??? HAH! Tell him you've given it to me and he does not even want to know what I'm doing with it!
Stay strong and give it time. It might hurt for a while, but that's better than living with the false guilt and shame. If they come around great, if not, their loss.
OF course I knew exactly what to expect. That's why avoided it so much. I wanted to try and save what I could of our relationship. He doesn't realize how much he has hurt me. Like sometimes I wish I was wrong so that he could face all the shit he's ever done to me. He's been a jerk and he will never know it.
