RE: Processing our mortality
July 6, 2017 at 7:54 am
(This post was last modified: July 6, 2017 at 7:56 am by Whateverist.)
I'd like to second Arouca's suggestion about mindfulness. Also please feel free to PM me too if you'd like to talk about it off the grid. If it is any comfort you have me as a buffer between yourself and the cliff. Most of the bastards I'd counted on as buffer have long since taken the leap.
You never know when stuff that gives you comfort will just depress someone else. Some of it is probably just a matter of disposition. But death days -when a relative or close friend have died or are getting buried,etc- have always been days which have felt the most real to me. I mean most of the time we just go about our to-do lists and favorite pass times pretty mindlessly, on autopilot. But on a death day I have the this-is-it feeling; I mindfully eat the slice of cake that is this day accepting that the cake won't last forever. In some ways I have more dread of living life distracted from its reality than I do of it actually ending.
Death days are not catastrophes which have happened to someone else. They're just as natural and inevitable as can be. I like to remind people who are dying that we are all standing on the at bat circle, that I don't feel separate from what they are going through. But like Woody Allen I've always thought about mortality for as long as I can remember as a kid. Unlike Woody Allen I do want to be there when it happens. Just noticed how cool it would be to be called "Woody".
You never know when stuff that gives you comfort will just depress someone else. Some of it is probably just a matter of disposition. But death days -when a relative or close friend have died or are getting buried,etc- have always been days which have felt the most real to me. I mean most of the time we just go about our to-do lists and favorite pass times pretty mindlessly, on autopilot. But on a death day I have the this-is-it feeling; I mindfully eat the slice of cake that is this day accepting that the cake won't last forever. In some ways I have more dread of living life distracted from its reality than I do of it actually ending.
Death days are not catastrophes which have happened to someone else. They're just as natural and inevitable as can be. I like to remind people who are dying that we are all standing on the at bat circle, that I don't feel separate from what they are going through. But like Woody Allen I've always thought about mortality for as long as I can remember as a kid. Unlike Woody Allen I do want to be there when it happens. Just noticed how cool it would be to be called "Woody".
