RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 10:39 pm
(This post was last modified: August 31, 2017 at 10:50 pm by Catholic_Lady.)
(August 31, 2017 at 6:33 pm)Mr.wizard Wrote:(August 31, 2017 at 6:30 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: I hope you are joking. You have a nice smile sounds cheesy AF lol.
Maybe but it's probably better than "I like your makeup".
I would agree with that lol
(August 31, 2017 at 9:21 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote:(August 31, 2017 at 3:50 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: I guess we disagree on this. I don't think that thinking someone is beautiful and being attracted to them physically is objectifying the person. It would become objectifying, in my opinion, if you then proceeded to gawk at them to get all lusty and start fantasizing about having sex with their body (considering you don't even know them). Because then you're seeing them as merely an object for your own gratification and not a person that has more to them than that. But simply thinking someone is beautiful and having physical attraction? I don't think that's objectifying, but I guess it's to each their own if it makes them feel uncomfortable or not. Personally I take it as a compliment lol.
The way I'm reading it, making simple physical attraction the basis for desire and advances is what is at issue.
Asking a gal out because she's pretty is like buying a house because you like the way the yard looks. If you ask a gal out only because she's pretty and has a tight body, yeah, you're objectifying. And starting off with that sort of compliment runs the risk of setting that train of thought in motion, rightly or wrongly.
I wasn't talking about asking a stranger out right off the bat just because she's pretty. I'm talking about the first step - just going up to them or trying to start conversation of some sort. Wanting to know them better *because* of that initial physical attraction to see if there is more there. I really don't see why this is at all controversial. Maybe telling her "you're pretty" right off the bat is a bit strange, but I don't think that's objectifying someone, personally. But yeah, I guess there could be girls out there who would take offense to it or take it the wrong way, so better to hold off on that anyway.
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