(September 2, 2017 at 7:41 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: What I meant was, if a girl you hit on is attracted to you, you'd know it. The OP asked her if she would help him study and she completely dodged the question. She stood around awkwardly and didn't smile until he was saying bye to leave. It's pretty clear she's not feeling it.
Um no. I can speak to that personally on a couple of occasions.
I had a party in my basement as a teen. 20 people or so, and one of my friends came up to me and said, "That girl thinks you are attractive" I looked at him like he was nuts, or pulling a prank on me. The only way I knew it was when he introduced me to her and she made the first move and took my hand. We went to my room, and well, I think you can figure that out. It was only because she made the first move I knew.
And my X wife is actually the biggest example of not knowing. It took me forever (metaphorically speaking) to realize she was pursuing me. When I first met her I had no interest in dating her.
We don't know why she reacted like that. Woman can be shy and attracted to you but not know how to react. My wife was hitting on me before I realized and I didn't know how to take it. When she repeatedly kept coming to me at first I really did not know what to think. I didn't want to push it because I didn't want to lose a friend.
I think most of her reaction at this point is merely because she doesn't know him. I wouldn't recommend he turn the classroom into an attempt at 'The Bachelor". But "not feeling it" doesn't have to be fear or lack of attraction, but mere politeness.
You may be right that she is not attracted to him, but it is too early. I wasn't looking to date my X when I first met her.
