(March 21, 2018 at 6:34 pm)Hammy Wrote:(March 21, 2018 at 6:17 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I would no longer feel attracted to a person once learning they are biologically a women because I am not attracted to the female sex. When it comes to sexual attraction, the person's sex is not irrelevant to me.
Even when they appear identical hence why you initially thought they were male...?
None of us are attracted to the essence of someone, we are all attracted to appearances because appearances is all that appears to us. Anyone who is attracted to an appearance and then discovers that someone's genetics is different to they thought it was.... is being bigoted about the way someone is born.
I mean, if you're not attracted to the appearance of a black person that isn't racist because we can't help what appearances we are or aren't attracted to. But if a black person looks white but has the DNA of a black person and you suddenly aren't attracted to them anymore once you discover their DNA is black because you don't like their black DNA... that's racist. We have no choice in what appearances we are or aren't attrracted to but if we literally care about DNA or how someone is born despite how they appear and behave and how they are mentally and physically... it's... am I the only one who recognizes this? Being anti-DNA is kind of taking a eugenics position. It's not the same as being unattracted to an appearance as appearances are what we are attracted to and we have no control over that. If you are attracted to an appearance of someone and then you discover something that has nothing to do with their appearance (or behavior because behavior is an appearance)... then you can't truly not be attracted anymore because it has nothing to do with what the attraction is aimed at (the appearance). Hence why I talk of denial.
Again, I'm not just talking about physical appearances. I'm talking about mental appearances too. How the person's personality seems to you. How their behavior seems to you. AND how they physically seem to you.
If you literally are attracted to everything about how the person seems to be to you, then you are attracted to that person, it doesn't matter what their DNA is so to recoil at their DNA for phobic or religious reasons is bigoted. It's not like you can actually control your own sexual attraction. Either we're attracted to the way someone seems to us or we're not.
Maybe I'm the only one who sees this but I definitely see it without question.
If you are an exclusive heterosexual( you are right ,about 10% of the population is composed of exclusive heterosexuals or homosexual) and your interest hasn't diminished after you were informed that she was a trans women than that is probably a good proof that the information doesn't affect your atraction.
We could take into account preference and maybe there will be a lost of interesest in wanting to go on with the interaction but that is just speculation.
Btw, I think homophobic is the apropriate term for this situation.
