The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)

[Angrboda]

Agreed with all this. To him, I said "You csnt say that, that's totally uncalled for and innapropriate", and to the others I say "You know he has autism and a tendency to go off the rails, so don't provoke him."

So to those saying "why should *I* tip toe around him to prevent him from acting out?" I say this again - a person can only control their own actions, not those of anyone else.

But then again, that's just my opinion. If both sides want to continue to perpetuate drama, that's their choice.

Yeah, that’s the thing.  Hammy is 100% responsible for the things he says to people, autism or no.  He needs to learn social and communication skills as well as coping mechanisms to the best of his ability just like anyone else in order to have healthy relationships and function in society. IMO, the backlash he got for calling ShellB that word was justified, and I hope that in the future he will reconsider its derogatory connotation here in the States before using it so flippantly.  He did not care for the backlash so he chose to leave of his own free will.  All That being said...

it does seem to me at times that the people who complain the most about how he interacts with others are the same people who bait him into arguments. That is a choice as well.  Now, obviously I’m not in every thread every day, and I don’t see every fight that happens, so I freely admit I could be missing important context here.  I could be wrong.  I’m just saying that’s how it appears from my end.

You know, a lot of people here have commented to the effect that Hammy's behavior has worsened from what it was prior to his diagnosis. However, I remember the early days of dealing with a mental illness and realizing how clumsy one's first attempts can be. One can, after a diagnosis, engage in both over compensation and under compensation, both in turn, alternating like a crazy yo-yo. It's easy to say that one's diagnosis shouldn't change you, but how can it not. For the first time in your life you're dealing with a reality that you not only not fully understand, but which you never foresaw having to even deal with. So, while I wouldn't necessarily make this an excuse for his behavior, I think it's also possible these latest episodes are a consequence of him trying to find his wings.