(December 17, 2018 at 6:42 pm)Grandizer Wrote: She's your wife, and you're concerned you might lose her to religion if you do anything drastic, so I'd say the last thing you want to do is challenge her beliefs (this is your IRL wife, not your resident AF theist). Criticizing her beliefs will just put her on the defensive and make things worse, so don't do that. She doesn't want to share with you her beliefs because she doesn't trust that you'll be supportive about that. So be supportive (show her that you're there for her and want to listen with an open heart) and let her experience what she wants to experience. When she asks you for your thoughts, use some tact and make sure you don't make her feel stupid for holding these beliefs. If you're patient, and you do it right, she'll likely get over it eventually. And if not, then at the least her joining the church won't be as much of a problem as it seems to be now (sometimes to solve a problem, you just have to trivialize it).
If things are that delicate, then the foundations of the relationship probably weren't strong to start with... (a general statement only)
People stray for many reasons. It's also natural for people to grow apart ... Attack the root cause ... Have it out. Be brutally honest.
All relationships are based on compromise ...or more to the point, how much one is prepared to compromise for the other's happiness.
No God, No fear.
Know God, Know fear.
Know God, Know fear.
